Is turnabout really fair play? Cheating on the Cheater.....

There's a lot of cheating going on. It could be in your own relationship, a family members, your friend, or your neighbor. It's happening a lot. Daily, marriages are broken up because one person couldn't keep their pants on.

I think most of us realize how bad cheating is, so this post isn't so much about that.

The question is, once someone has cheated is the marriage already over? If it has got to that point, is there really anything left to save? To overcome this devastating event, you would have to get over the fact that your spouse cheated. You would also have to be able to trust him, which is hard to do after someone has strayed. How do you know it won't happen again? Is it even worth trying?

What about the spouse that feels like turnabout is fair play? The spouse that thinks cheating back is ok, since they were cheated on.

I  can promise that this is a recipe for disaster, and not a road you want to go down.

I have a friend that is in her 40's. She is an extremely gorgeous woman. She was married for quite a long time to a man a few years younger then her. He traveled a lot for work. One day my friend got the news that changed her life. Literally. A man knocked on her door while her husband was gone. He was from out of state. Apparently, his wife had been cheating on him with my friend's husband.

He had drove all that way just to tell her.

After that, her and her husband stayed together for awhile. She didn't immediately forgive him, and she did start seeing other men.

After a few years, this marriage ended.

I don't think she was at fault. I think this was a woman that had been betrayed. She was devastated and not sure how to handle it. So she did the best she could. Regardless of anything, I think this marriage would have ended anyhow. Not through any fault of her own.

Once a marriage has got to this point, many times there just isn't any fixing it. The answer isn't going out to cheat on the cheater. Two wrongs don't make a right. If the marriage ends, you can walk out of it knowing that you did the right thing.

The most you can do is talk to the cheater and do what's right for you. Don't let the cheater make it out to be your fault. If you feel like you can't get past being cheated on, don't try. The day the cheater went to bed with someone else, they nulled your undying loyalty.

Being cheated on hurts. It's not right and not fair. It's even worse if you are married to someone. If you aren't married to the person, get out. Don't take this person back and end up marrying them. Be glad it happened before you married and cut your losses!

If you are married and they cheat, you have to determine if they are trustworthy. That's the main thing. I personally would recommend ending the marriage if you are cheated on, but I know this doesn't always happen. Take the time you need to decide if you want to continue the marriage. If you decide to continue it, realize that you will have to trust your spouse and you can't continue to throw it up in there face. When you choose to take the person back, constantly arguing and accusing them of cheating again will destroy you marriage.

When you make the choice to take a cheating spouse back, everything has to be forgiven and forgotten. That's the only way your marriage has a chance.

The best way to stop a problem is before it starts. Laugh and love alot. Pray together. Life together. And realize that a good and happy marriage is a special one.